Mainstream ideas of leadership over focus on visible work. Like build your ‘executive presence’ so you can command a room. Or strengthen your communications so you can appear more polished. Or speak about your accomplishments confidently to show credibility. What often doesn’t get talked about is the invisible work behind-the-scenes.

It's hard not to fall for capitalist markers of success. Success for my generation meant getting into a good university, earning six figures, and retiring with a pension. So, I built my career based on the millennial playbook.